My Journey

Greetings! My name is Kory, I am an empath, healer, intuitive, advocate, and mother.

*Trigger Warning: Please note my journey contains sexual trauma, abuse, and self-harm.*
I grew up facing many challenges starting from a young age. My parents were separated early on in my life and a big part of my childhood was going back and forth between who had custody. My life was very inconsistent. I felt like I was caught in between a crossfire and I was the one responsible for my parent's feelings of hate for each other. My mother has BPD, I walked on eggshells, and was verbally abused until I turned 18. My father left the state when I was 10 and my mother gained full custody. Around the age of 5, I was molested by my cousin on multiple occasions and lived in a constant state of survival for years until I faced it many years later. The combination of abandonment and abuse led me to start self-harming at the age of 7 and it continued to manifest in scarier and darker ways. I felt alone, I never felt safe, I was constantly running, and I was so so tired of living in the same story that was in my head, which condensed down to I’m not worthy of living. By the time I was a  Sophomore in high school I was in between homes. When I was a Senior I officially became a homeless youth. I somehow still graduated high school with my AA degree in social and behavioral sciences, but only to learn later in life I was externalizing my self-worth. After high school, I transferred to a state school and gained access to health care and therapy. I started my healing journey in 2015 for depression and addiction. I got on antidepressants and a cocktail of drugs that the Dr. thought would help fix me, which I believe caused me more distress. I dropped out of school for a year to live in a Cabin in the mountains of Santa Cruz County and that was a pivotal moment of change for me. I had very little money from my last job and I lived in a rat-infested and moldy cabin in the woods with an outdoor shower and an outdoor toilet, which was basically a hole in the ground. I was off the meds and was still severely depressed, but I gained a lot of perspectives. I became grateful for propane, firewood, the apples on trees, a working toilet, the dollar store, etc. I went back to school in 2016 and started therapy again, but this time no meds. I will never forget that Fall Semester my Twin Flame told me I needed to work on my childhood trauma. We were riding in a car and I was so scared that opening the car door on the highway would be easier than being triggered by my molestation. I felt like an emotional train was running over me, I was screaming. After about a few weeks of living with heavy substance abuse, I decided I was ready to take on my childhood trauma and I decided to face myself and take control of my life no matter how scary it was. I was tired of the way I was living, I was tired of running all of the time, the anxiety, the panic attacks, everything. I finally told my therapist about what happened to me as a child. It was so hard, and it’s still hard, but I’ve learned what it means to ride the waves of my trauma even when it feels like I was just drowning; the wave will subside. My therapist at the time provided me with a safe space for my inner traumatized child to come out. For the first time I was seen and it was safe to do so. I remember screaming and almost having a panic attack in the office. I continued to go to therapy despite how hard it was. One of the biggest things I learned from it was what it meant to feel safe and to have the space to change the narrative I’ve lived on for so long. I discovered what it meant to have self-care and self-love and I am deserving of it! The following semester I was in my Intro to Social Work Class and at the end of the first class the instructor asked, “where do you want to stand in this world?” I was so shaky to raise my hand, but I was tired of being afraid. I was the last one to raise my hand and I said, “I was sexually abused when I was 5 years old and I want to advocate for sexual child abuse, that is where I want to stand up in this world”. I never felt so empowered. I was no longer scared of the story I kept narrating to myself for years. By 2018 I had replaced self-harm and substance abuse with self-care and self-love. I had many tools that help guide me on my healing journey. To this day I continue to grow and I continue to unravel the many layers of the hurt parts of me. There are days I still struggle, but life cannot always be rainbows and butterflies. I believe we are here to experience the journey of life and what it means to be human. I created Awakening Chrysalis and decided to become a spiritual life coach to bring a safe space, compassion, and care to others. I hope to help people navigate this life and join them on their healing journey. This is where I come from and it has made me who I am today. A strong divine mother, who shows compassion, and patience. I am here to reflect love and light to you.

You are so loved and supported by the universe.

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-Kismet Kory